August 2014

Not Once But Twice

What will this month deliver? Perhaps it will deliver the chance to find solidarity in areas of life that are important for the right structures. We all have of recent been waning to the pressure of life and somehow we may have under cut ourselves leaving our inner being a little torn and lethargic.

This month you start to hear the calls of WHO is taking RESPONSIBILITY? who is going to create the change and who will follow through. This might sound like the soap box of politics and recent events but it is not. This is about you personally in your own physical being now taking a look at that which you may need to reestablish as your security and foundations for personal empowerment.

The awakening has been happening for centuries but somehow most of us are still warming to the idea we are in the drivers seat. This month will help you to nurture your goals, structures, incomes and personal alliances. The world will not be your oyster but it will be a work in progress that will ensure you are building upon a strong alliance with yourself and that which benefits your present and future growth.

We have a super moon arriving which is the perfect influence to help you to see not once but twice how to make a positive leap towards being independent of that which has had a significant impact which has held you back or left you suppressed. It will be as if you are hearing your own inner roar ,finding yourself creating the changes and enabling new directions with sound purpose to evolve.

All that was once build on shaky ground will be demolished and in its place will be erected a new more stable meaning or purpose. I am sure you are still reeling from July's little melt down so August is giving you wings and the will to make the necessary yet successful road to recovery.

Time to don on your confidence cap and start to believe in your own self and your abilities. You have been waiting in the distance perhaps to take that leap. Well this month delivers the perfect platform in which to launch. Expect an opportunity to reassess with diligence that which works for you and that which does not. This will be important when it comes to matters concerning your career. That leap of faith could see you walking into a new role or ready to embrace some uncharted waters in order to get your career path on track.

You will be sourcing equality, balance and fairness in relationships. This is one area that has seen some very rocky and critical flaws being exposed over the past 7 months. You may find yourself being honest with your true feelings and being fair to yourself and the other person by standing in that truth. You are looking for stability, concrete alliance and certainty that what you feel is real, pure, without boundary or expectation.

The past months have shown you some of the problem areas and this month enables you the strength in which to heal and remove your obligations to others and turning this obligation now inward. The energy of August is to enable you to identify with the self responsibility of accepting this is your choice to continue with the same old same old or to promote a change that will cut you both free of the emotional, mental or physical enslavement that is enabling inertia.

The way August filters through from the trickle of a stream to a full on tsunami depends on you. I guess it is the universal energy that is saying enough dolly dancing about the subject, decision or outcome! just get a move on. Perhaps because the excuses, condoning or feelings of limitation due to outside influences or perceptions, you have not had to support to do as you feel you can now.

The structure you are designing in your life purpose and path from here on is solid. There is not room for cheap imports or short cuts. Remember this even if it seems like a long haul it will be the right way. If you take the quick and easy way for the sake of it that, will only bring you back to the original path or process to be performed again. Be brave, be smart be the initiator and stand up for your rights, personal happiness and personal self. Don't settle for substandard, you would not if you were employing someone to build you a home or any other important place of safety, security, love, support and establishment. This is your chance to renovate and replace that which is inferior and not bringing into your life the sense of complete satisfaction and alignment.

This month shows you with all is might that you are been giving a blessing. A blessing of knowing by having faith in your own self and taking responsibility for that which you can achieve, that you, can accomplish much.The energy will lift and the reveal a lighter less cumbersome relationship with yourself and your life goals. You will feel ready to finish that which you have started but, most importantly you will STOP neglecting you. You will allow yourself to build upon the foundations of that which you know is going to be there for the long term.

xx Cosmic Hugs xx 

Picture Positive Not Perfection

It is a mental challenge when one thinks about that which one can and can not accomplish. The challenge is not that it is not viable but the perceptions that are gathered which create the picture, the outcome or supposed outcome.

Supposed? Yes, because often there is this small misconception that which is forming needs to be perfect. In the pursuit of such we lost the purpose of the positive picture that once was created to enhance these marvelous changes in the first place.

Oh I am talking from my own analytic mind. I too have some marvelous ideas and even self challenges that start with a small idea and grow into a lovely seed ready for planting. THEN like a swift change in season I am recreating that plan and fostering many ideas and before I know it the once applicable and realistic plan or idea has become larger than Ben Hur the epic movie.

My ideas and plans have character roles now! and like every drama there needs to be a moment of truth and reflection. You know that part in the movie where the lead character has a moment of inner thought and reassesses their life, the event or situation and finds the courage to find the solution.

Well in my case it is like - Hang on - start with the one plan and see it through, then create the next step! Like a bull at the gate that thought has taken on yet another round the world voyage of questioning whether I really should be doing this idea, plan or project at all? When lower Ego can find a back door it will.

I am now sitting back and contemplating my usual finesse of running up that hill and taking a great leap of faith, to questioning well I have done this before but it never worked out like I had hoped or anticipated. I find the key was how I tried to over perfect the idea or plan. How I had got this picture perfect ideal in my mind as to that which it should be or become. In doing so I lost the essence of that which I truly first envisioned.

Ok, so I can be a bit repetitive. Like a child that is told no and can't help but ask again just in-case circumstances have changed in that split 1 minute pause of hearing no! Until it is an inevitable reckoning that opens the conscious mind to well, it is definitely a no.

So where was I? picture positive not perfect, means you write down your reasons for that which you see in your life, in your goals and in your self. Look at this in realistic terms not with critical expectations. The ego can always find a way to knock the wind out of you self confidence and self esteem given half the chance. When we doubt out ability or self it is like a red flag and ego is charging forth the bowl you over and trample you some more.

The only way to be more conscious of your thoughts and ideals is to look at matters in am ore positive light. For may it was realising I had so many project and great ones at that, but they had not been fulfilled. I look at myself a tad disappointed thinking wow you have always done this and you finish 40 % not 100%. I was really critical of myself and my spreading my energy so thin I lost interest or it become too hard that I just left it half finished. Yes, ego was kicking me a few times as well.

I then went through and seen this with a new set of eyes. The unfinished projects or goals or ideas were now sitting there in their usual back burner form. I looked at each one and could see how I had started off great until I become overly creative! in the pursuit of making something happen I had gave it life, gave it a make over, 15 times and then decided it must need a nip and tuck because it was still not perfect. The end result reminds me of a joke I once heard.

" A lady in her 60's get his by car and goes to heaven. At the pearly gates she is met by God who says to her go back it is not your time you have many more years to live, well into your 90's. The lady is so excited to hear this is not her time and so she returns to her body and start to recover.

Thinking to herself well since I am in here and I am not going to die until my late 90's I may as well fix up a few things and turn back a few years. So she has a nose job, a tummy tuck, a face lift and all the things she felt she wanted to do, after all she going to be living well into her 90's.

All complete she leaves the hospital and on the way home decided to stop and buy a few groceries. As she crosses the road she is hit by a truck!

Up to heaven she goes and she is standing at the gate furious! God shows up......well ? said the lady...you said it was not my time I was to live well into my 90's! God replies, is that you ? sheez did not even recognise you!"

I can assure you changing and recognising your choices is not that dramatic lol. I took a moment to reassess my self and my actions. I started to realise I set myself up for that picture of perfect yet in my subconscious mind I know perfection is not a reality it is a perception.

The steps I took next were to help me see if my ideas, goals or plans were still applicable. Did they have sustenance or longevity? Where they stepping stones or foundation blocks that can be built upon? Could I see more in this now as I have taken a different perspective on the unfinished work?

Some were null and void but others I knew were waiting for me to grow into. I had started the idea, plan or project but had to acquire the knowledge or experience to see it through. I could see a collage of plans and ideas starting to take form. I also could hear my conscious mind say don't go doing no nipping and tucking and changing everything like last time either or your plans will be like that lady, unrecognizable.

1. Create the platform
2. Start to work it, mold it and see its viability
3. Consider if it is a shorty term exercise or a long term outcome
4. Look at the positives it is presenting be this growth, understanding, confidence etc
5. Remember -Perfection is a perception not a realistic outcome so enjoy the challenge of creating this and learning from the experiences.
6. Give yourself permission to change your mind.
7. Find your sense of purpose and that which you truly wish to accomplish by starting your new project, attitude and so forth.
8. Encourage yourself, support yourself and enjoy yourself.
9. Do not measure yourself against others, you are an individual and noone can be like you any you dont want to be someone else. Be strong and be proud!
10. It does not cost you money to start, it take energy. Once you have created your plan and started to put energy toward your personal goal it is amazing how the universe supports the right doors, people, support and so forth to see the once thought of plan or idea come to life.

So in coming to the finality of this blog, erase every doubt you have had that you can not possibly do it! You are able to achieve al ot more than you realise when you remove the doubts, limitations or the comparisons of what you feel is expected.

It can be a liberating feeling knowing you have followed through.- Picture Positive, Not Perfection and you will find a complete more fulling image of that which is attainable.

xx Cosmic Hugs xx

Finding The You IN YOU

                Finding The You IN YOU

The days can seem to blend and the nights drag on, when you are preoccupied with what is right or wrong. How can you please everyone and yet still stand true to you? You can’t……..when you take ownership of that statement you realise how the transitions, changes or obstacles are created by the inability to take up your power towards change.

There are times traditions, honour, customs, fears and faith can all hinder the path to self empowerment. Times when you may be feeling helpless and confused or scared about how to take that initial step. You are struggling under the mountain of guilt, fear and powerlessness to find a reasonable outcome that will not only please yourself but also please those concerned.

When you are miserable than so are those connected. We bring forth a reflection or energy that is being brought forth to help each to recognise  the emotional enslavement that is occurring throughout this situation. 

We can be happy and still be connected to our path, family, friends and others It comes down to boundaries and self empowerment. Knowing when you are reacting to a situation that is out of control or has become this way from lack of initiative to stop it. When you are condoning it and accepting it , you are relinquishing your power.

How people take your power is bit by bit placing higher expectations on you. Finding your weakness or hole in your personality layer be it a fear, self doubt or physical trait. They often pronounce your name incorrectly or make tongue in cheek comments. Some even just over rule everything you say and dismiss your feelings. 

The route they take is to make them selves look superior whilst you go off and try and patch up the wounds. They are smart manipulators, cunning associates and often people we trust. The same people that are struggling with their own ghost and yet shining a light on yours.

It is the situation that that continues to come up, the topic that raids your happiness and brings you down. Its the self condemnation, the I am not good enough, i don’t have the energy, I don’t want to hurt any one excuses. Its the person within you that is screaming out i am powerless and I just want someone to make it better or take it away. 

Look around take stock of the ones who come in and rob you of your smile, that feed your fears. the ones that make you feel inferior or like your not good enough, smart enough to wise enough to lead your life and be happy.The ones that come into your day who then energy dumb and then leave. The one who mocks your dreams and strips away your ambitions.

Time to recognise the beautiful energy you are, the one hiding under all those layers of atmospheric crap. The build up of years and years of being a people pleaser, the nice guy or girl and where has it got you? Where has allowing others to come in and take over your mood, to bring you down and and make you feel not good enough ? unloved, depleted, exhausted, just putting up with it? …its made you miserable and powerless to change the situation.

What would you lose if you said ” please dont speak to me that way, or dont treat me like this or I feel like you do not appreciate me and what I bring to this situation………the list goes on…what would you lose? you would lose one piece of that inability to stand up for your happiness. You would be 99 more pieces closer to taking your power back. If that person was offended by your taking your power, then that it their issue.

We fear speaking up. We dont want to lose our friendships, those same ones that are negative energies ? not all friends are this way I am just using this as an example as many people worry about hurting the feelings of friends yet you are being hurt each time this person walks in and slams you with their critique on who, what and how you are.

Step back and see if that person really your friend? are they just self projecting so that can look better than you or is this a case of misery loves company? This is you chance to be honest and see what changes can you make to have a better relationship with this person, someone who will respect you for you or are they here in your life to teach you to recognise you deserve better? 

Sometimes we cant recognise better if we never felt it. We an see how to bring it forth if we never felt we can achieve or embrace it. Better is like your favorite scent lingers and makes you smile and lifts your spirits. Better is the first time the sun hits your face and you raise your head instead of looking down. Better is the first time recall love, and how it felt to feel it, have it and hold it. Better is when you can be proud of who you are and you dont need someone elses approval to be you.

You may be thinking but its too hard because its not a friend it is my family, my boss, myself. it all starts with you. One step at a time, one self empowerment moment at a time. One taking your power back and speaking up, one believing in yourself. it all begins with you.

You are 100 % not 98, 99 or 5% you are 100% you. You live your life, you are responsible for your choices, path and what you bring into it. You are not an emotional doormat, a place for others to control or manipulate. You are a loving beautiful energy that deserves to be whole and be loved and respected for who you are, not what others may wish to box you into.

Some links : 

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/21-tips-to-release-self-neglect-and-love-yourself-in-action/

http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-7324/6-tips-to-find-yourself.html

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/evolution-the-self/201209/how-and-how-not-stand-yourself

Cosmic Hugs 

Carolyn