August 2014

Not Once But Twice

What will this month deliver? Perhaps it will deliver the chance to find solidarity in areas of life that are important for the right structures. We all have of recent been waning to the pressure of life and somehow we may have under cut ourselves leaving our inner being a little torn and lethargic.

This month you start to hear the calls of WHO is taking RESPONSIBILITY? who is going to create the change and who will follow through. This might sound like the soap box of politics and recent events but it is not. This is about you personally in your own physical being now taking a look at that which you may need to reestablish as your security and foundations for personal empowerment.

The awakening has been happening for centuries but somehow most of us are still warming to the idea we are in the drivers seat. This month will help you to nurture your goals, structures, incomes and personal alliances. The world will not be your oyster but it will be a work in progress that will ensure you are building upon a strong alliance with yourself and that which benefits your present and future growth.

We have a super moon arriving which is the perfect influence to help you to see not once but twice how to make a positive leap towards being independent of that which has had a significant impact which has held you back or left you suppressed. It will be as if you are hearing your own inner roar ,finding yourself creating the changes and enabling new directions with sound purpose to evolve.

All that was once build on shaky ground will be demolished and in its place will be erected a new more stable meaning or purpose. I am sure you are still reeling from July's little melt down so August is giving you wings and the will to make the necessary yet successful road to recovery.

Time to don on your confidence cap and start to believe in your own self and your abilities. You have been waiting in the distance perhaps to take that leap. Well this month delivers the perfect platform in which to launch. Expect an opportunity to reassess with diligence that which works for you and that which does not. This will be important when it comes to matters concerning your career. That leap of faith could see you walking into a new role or ready to embrace some uncharted waters in order to get your career path on track.

You will be sourcing equality, balance and fairness in relationships. This is one area that has seen some very rocky and critical flaws being exposed over the past 7 months. You may find yourself being honest with your true feelings and being fair to yourself and the other person by standing in that truth. You are looking for stability, concrete alliance and certainty that what you feel is real, pure, without boundary or expectation.

The past months have shown you some of the problem areas and this month enables you the strength in which to heal and remove your obligations to others and turning this obligation now inward. The energy of August is to enable you to identify with the self responsibility of accepting this is your choice to continue with the same old same old or to promote a change that will cut you both free of the emotional, mental or physical enslavement that is enabling inertia.

The way August filters through from the trickle of a stream to a full on tsunami depends on you. I guess it is the universal energy that is saying enough dolly dancing about the subject, decision or outcome! just get a move on. Perhaps because the excuses, condoning or feelings of limitation due to outside influences or perceptions, you have not had to support to do as you feel you can now.

The structure you are designing in your life purpose and path from here on is solid. There is not room for cheap imports or short cuts. Remember this even if it seems like a long haul it will be the right way. If you take the quick and easy way for the sake of it that, will only bring you back to the original path or process to be performed again. Be brave, be smart be the initiator and stand up for your rights, personal happiness and personal self. Don't settle for substandard, you would not if you were employing someone to build you a home or any other important place of safety, security, love, support and establishment. This is your chance to renovate and replace that which is inferior and not bringing into your life the sense of complete satisfaction and alignment.

This month shows you with all is might that you are been giving a blessing. A blessing of knowing by having faith in your own self and taking responsibility for that which you can achieve, that you, can accomplish much.The energy will lift and the reveal a lighter less cumbersome relationship with yourself and your life goals. You will feel ready to finish that which you have started but, most importantly you will STOP neglecting you. You will allow yourself to build upon the foundations of that which you know is going to be there for the long term.

xx Cosmic Hugs xx 

July 2014

July 2014 -Relationships and Personal Interactions -  Addictions and Escapism

This month you can be assured that lessons will filter through areas of your life that are borne from experiences designed cosmically to help you take charge of your life. You will find yourself drawn to knowing more about your inner workings and the connection you have with your life purpose.

The truth will surface, the energy you have within will enable you to create the changes that you are envisioning now to happen. If there is one piece of advice I could give for July it's to stay centred and do not get caught up in the Leo energy need for drama or the Cancerian energy of emotional dependency . Drama will have a role to play but you are the lead role here not life and all its exteriors.

I love the energy of change it enthralls and makes me tingle however, if one has been avoiding listening to the universal calls for such you may be finding this month a little hit and miss. I say this with enough tack to make it stick. If you have been avoiding change, deluding yourself that by closing your eyes you can not see the issue or matter. If you have created an addiction for self misery or problems then expect a wake up call from the guys upstairs possibly in and around the next two weeks.

The place most hit by this energy will be relationships be this love, friendship or professional. The forecast is not bad but it is an eye opener. The energy this month enables you to look more closely at your one on one interaction. This will enable you to identify areas that may need to find balance, mend, heal or let go. 

The self image that, in which, you see yourself could be about to see a whole new person emerging. Your insecurities, fears or self illusions could rise to the surface allowing you the chance to see with your own eyes that which has created this situation or matter with your relationship areas. 

The lesson or purpose is not to become caught up in making a song and dance (drama) about that which you are seeing but instead find a way to utilise the valuable life messages that are before you. Are you still doing or accepting the same things? Are you allow conflict to follow you through your interactions? Are you comparing yourself to others? Are you addicted to trying to fix everything? Are you being authentic to you and that in which you believe in or are you a people pleaser?

This month highlights matters that have become cyclonic and out of control even if you have done an excellent job of hiding the internal turmoil. The chance to reassess your own contributions to the situation or matter will encourage you to slow down and accept that something may actually need to change. The universe is literally getting that patience stick you have been holding like a band leader marching through life and giving you a bit of snap with it. What are you waiting for? Only you can start the ball rolling or make that decision or commitment.

I know it is not easy, it is not simple but, it is possible. We create our thoughts on what happiness is. We seek companionship, love and acceptance but if you are settling for something because you feel it will get better or if you are living in the shadow of another you may find this month commands you to make a choice and stick to it. No more running along the fence and dancing with with change.

Watch your words and your actions as they are on display. As I have implied throughout this whole blog this month, the stage will be set. The choice is yours, be the lead or be the drama. If you choose to take the lead you will find the smog lift and the illusions or delusions cleared. You will find that you are back in touch with your intuitive self and your true sense or purpose. If you choose the drama than the Oscar performance will be worthy of such as the purpose of this month is to make the transitions without creating more work than you need. 

Take the lead and know as uncomfortable as some matters may be this is making progress for your betterment. You will find a few issues require a little more attention than others but at the end of the day you will be surprised at how much you can accomplish when you take the initiate to not only be honest with yourself but willing to see the truth. 

The July energy is showing you what have you made your addiction and what have you created for your escapism. The guides and angels will not do the work for you, nor will anyone else. This is your chance to have faith in your own tools and abilities in order to find the right path to correction. Why is it important to deal with this at this time? because if you were truly happy with your job, money, one on one relationships, career, goals, family and the list goes on then you would not be feeling the undercurrents.

You would not be looking at others or comparing yourself on a such merits. You would not be settling for second best in a partnership. You would not be umming and arring about changing jobs. You would not be blaming someone else for your predicament, no you would instead be taking ownership.

BOOM feel that energy hit your chest! let go of that emotional baggage that has been denying you the chance to be who you truly are. Let go of that fear of not being good enough. Let go of that fear of being deceived. Let go of that fear of not knowing what you want or how to make it happen. Put your sun glasses on because the LIGHT is so bright from that neon sign and arrow pointing at you saying " The only way is this way!" Yes, within you, just you no one else but you can create the connection you want in your life.

The best relationship you can have is the one with yourself. When you smile the whole world smiles back! When you are the reflection of the image of that which you want in your life, that which you accept and that which you truly are to the core. No one else can fill that void. No one else can be that person. Stand in your own truth and true light and be that person! Your relationships with others and life all are depicted by the relationship with the self. 

xx Cosmic Hugs xx 

There Comes a Time

I feel humbled by the Universe and all its awe. At times I wonder just how it seems to know just that which I truly need to better understand or grow from experience. I know that we all travel the road of life in different ways. I also realise that my journey will be different as it is unique to me.

I have felt a little unsettled and uncertain in the past few days. I almost felt like a a wave on the ocean trying to find shore. Silly as it seems my emotions ebbed and surged forth but I truly lacked the distance to reach land.

I tossed and turned and considered my choices. I felt I really had none but, often it helps to feel one has some tempting in the hand of the universal energy even if it is a numb one. I was truly bothered and perplexed at how my seemingly balanced and equal life seemed a little off key and jilted.

I was not agitated or annoyed just lost. You know the feeling you get when you know something is missing but you haven't quite figured it out until it hits you. That's me. I mean no I am not going to hit you! but that is how I felt. I was like a balloon that once lost its ability to float but instead I am deflated and looking a little wrinkled by my once exuberance and usefulness.

I sat in my bed wondering what is it? what am I missing? What is it that is not connecting the dots or creating the same internal force of change that I so readily embrace each day. Why do I feel so blah? Where is my belly laugh? What happened to my get over it attitude? Why am I thinking I am the only one feeling like this as I observe others so merrily going about their day.

I know that I have not lost my sense of purpose yet I feel I am questioning myself about what they truly may be. Am I happy ? yes to a degree I am. I am grateful for my good health, my family, my life I have chosen. I am happy.

I look at my life and all that I have accomplished and that which is yet to arrive and I feel that I have achieved a lot. I feel fulfilled in my accomplishments for that has made me become the person I felt compelled to be.

I think even harder what is it? what is it that is creating this gulf between my self and my me? What is enabling me to feel detached from my usual jubilant self. Am I turning into an old fart? Am I tired? Do I lack spontaneity or a goal? I find myself probing beneath my layers seeking the answer so that I may put that piece of whatever is missing back.

I start to mentally tick off all that I hold gratitude for in my life. I thank my guides and angels for their provisions and understanding. I thank them for being a part of my journey no matter how much I must drive them crazy or turn them grey!

I find myself laying wide eyed and staring at the ceiling in the dark. Little shapes float by and my thoughts try to find a logic to a sign or symbol that might come forth. I speak to my guides and say to them that I truly am feeling a little lost but I am uncertain of the true nature of that which is creating such a short fall within.

I ask them to give me direction on that which I am so very much overlooking or failing to better understand. I ask that they may help me to find a sense of resolution or to better see that which is creating this feeling of distance. As I lay there in the darkness watching the space fill with shifting thoughts to the sound of my own breathing.

I realise in that moment, there comes a time we must detach and step back. A time that we must allow our energy to recuperate, settle and find its own source again. Almost like plugging back into the universal socket and allowing  one self to recharge. I gather if I was to liken it to when the mobile phone goes completely flat and that panicked moment you plug it in to wait what seems like an eternity before you hear BLING and the battery light starts flashing to let you know it is charging.

I had that BLING moment laying there in the dark as I started to realise this was my moment of running flat. I was needing to do so to enable myself to plug back into the source. I was half expecting a software update but alas I still woke up the same model!

In this time of stepping back we see a new perspective on an old situation. We have a realization and possibly an arr har moment. We tend to find that in that void we are neither lost or found we are just within that moment. Although it does not feel like that when we first enter the experience. It feels like what am I missing as you pat yourself down doing that mental check, undies, socks, purse? Everything seems intact but you still feel you are missing something.

What was I missing? Time out for me. I am so used to being busy when I have a time out I am not accustomed to it is very foreign. I truly do tend to over do it when I do work I know this. I enjoy something I enjoy it to exhaustion. I call myself OCD when it comes to a good thing. Be it listening to a song, making a grand plan or just visualizing a dream. I will dedicate myself to seeing it through 100 times over until its exhausted.

I ask the universe in my moment of feeling like Sandra Bullock in Gravity, is this it? Is this what I am meant to do just float around waiting for something to hang onto before I get sucked into oblivion? Of course no George Clooney arrived to save my day but I did get the idea this short moment of space travel was important.

I began to realise the space between me and the universe was not a unreachable space ship just a time for me to gain perspective on my life, myself and my real purpose. What is my real purpose? I have no real idea, although I know I live it everyday without needing to know it. I know that sounds crazy but that is the truth.

I get up and just do whatever the day delivers. If it is a three course meal then great. If it is bread and water then thank you. I just know that I am doing whatever it is I must be meant to be doing. There is no right or wrongs just experiences and journeys.

So I realised I was having time out. My battery was flat I needed a reboot and recharge. In this moment of detachment I also had some reality checks. I took a closer look at my actions, thoughts and emotions. I realised that there comes a time .......................... to step back and take time out.

Negative vs Positive = Crap

We can all relate to a time that we have given so much to end with little as slap in the face. The times you try so hard to find out your energy was ammunition for the lesser. The moments you are dismissed, degraded and left shell shocked by someone who is a professional in sarcasm and narcissism.

The professional  usually sports a smug smile and a scented of arrogance that lingers with a small yet false apology. The one that almost makes you feel sorry for being that which you are or for voicing your concern.

The professional sarcasm seems to know the right words to say to shoot you into a false submission making think look the wiser most important person. You know the one who makes you question your genuineness when they are nothing but a falsehood trying to dominate with all their might to be a knowledgeable person who has an ego larger than the economical deficit.

This person delights in dredging up inadequacies and creating a rift of feelings. The more turmoil they have in their midst the better that feel Superior. They call others fools for facing off and creating a challenge,. They demean, falsify and create trouble and rifts. They thrive on their negative thoughts and hear say as a validation for their mere reasoning behind their attacks.

These people enjoy thinking they have the upper hand as their ego takes on  a life of its own. If you dare to challenge them they rip away the fabric of that which you love and respect. They find solace in their truths that are created from the irrational thoughts and lies.They choose to hold that which reinforces their negative behaviors.

These people create a drama and reinforce their will. The more recognize they are not right, they then use their emotive blackmail to let you know they hold power. They look at what they think is your weakest point and fixate on that which they can reinforce over and over. "you said you were not good at that remember you said it and so be it you are not good at that as you said it yourself and i am only repeating it as you have said it. "

They stay focused on the past and create all their baggage and bullets from such. Dredging up all they can in order to may themselves look superior and gracious. After all they are doing you the favour to repeat what they so adamantly think are your or those around you  faults and shortfalls.

Little do they know as a vibration that you have chosen to rise that which you no longer hold those same lower energies or thoughts., You see beyond to see an almost pity of compassion for the one trying to drag you effortlessly down to their level.

You start to see their ego is a thorn that they have struggled and given into. You see that you beyond their reach yet they try to drag you down even using their blackmail and assertion of power taking every form of control. They try to rip away what which they think is your weakest and most stable link. Yes they try to create a drama in your life that affects many.

They take the victim lead with a helping of truth, They ask you for advice whilst shooting your reply down with irrational reasoning. They truly are only looking for validation on the self righteous actions. Their demeaning words and embarrassing disrespectful manners. Their shooting and accusatory words. Their childish ways that hurts others in order to divert the attention away from the inferior person they are.

Their disgusting actions , language and belittling ways that will take the normal person by shock as noone would envisage such behaviour from a trusted bond of friendship/family or other.. The attitude of creating such a falsehood exhilarates them and inspires their motives to continue. They love feeling they are in control and creating such angst. The bigger the turmoil the larger the smile of satisfaction.

The ego greets you before they do. You are meet with a smile of contempt that brings down the hammer of reality. This person thinks they are God and their opinion is law. Dare you to cross them and think otherwise they will have your guts for garters. They will strip you down and make a mockery of you. They are the the persecutors of their own law. They are the ones most needing love and yet denying it.

They believe they are right. They are doing all that is right and you are wrong and wouldn't you do this after all the victim is the victim and you the sightseer. Would you not take their side you fool of a person that has never lived life beneath that which is only right by them.

What your parents never said they loved you justifies never say i love you or a good thing about your accomplishments,.Oh what you never had an education justifies those who do. So you had an imperfect life, so did most of us but we did not poke a stick at you.

They use whoever or whatever  they can to bring their ego to light. They do whatever they can to make you look lower than them.

My advice to all in this position is to know you are not alone. That the person doing this is below and beneath you that is why they have such power.; They think you are so afraid to say anything or do anything as they  they rely on your ability to love or want the one thing they are trying to create as rift. They want you to not say anything so they can rule their roost.

This person wants you to think you are inferior. You are worthless and not of their standards. They want you to believe they feed you when you are worth with praise or love. They want you believe they are the key.

Truth is they are not. Truth is they know this but will try to rule all the same . They want you thinking that you will answer to them.

What do you do?

Be honest with yourself and know your pity is as i am told " it is the apathy of others that allow those to do as they do" unfortunately those with an ego wont see his/hers statement as any more than their own statement towards their self righteous ways. They believe it is their right to make everyone who does not agree with them a living hell.

xx Cosmic Hugs xx

Picture Positive Not Perfection

It is a mental challenge when one thinks about that which one can and can not accomplish. The challenge is not that it is not viable but the perceptions that are gathered which create the picture, the outcome or supposed outcome.

Supposed? Yes, because often there is this small misconception that which is forming needs to be perfect. In the pursuit of such we lost the purpose of the positive picture that once was created to enhance these marvelous changes in the first place.

Oh I am talking from my own analytic mind. I too have some marvelous ideas and even self challenges that start with a small idea and grow into a lovely seed ready for planting. THEN like a swift change in season I am recreating that plan and fostering many ideas and before I know it the once applicable and realistic plan or idea has become larger than Ben Hur the epic movie.

My ideas and plans have character roles now! and like every drama there needs to be a moment of truth and reflection. You know that part in the movie where the lead character has a moment of inner thought and reassesses their life, the event or situation and finds the courage to find the solution.

Well in my case it is like - Hang on - start with the one plan and see it through, then create the next step! Like a bull at the gate that thought has taken on yet another round the world voyage of questioning whether I really should be doing this idea, plan or project at all? When lower Ego can find a back door it will.

I am now sitting back and contemplating my usual finesse of running up that hill and taking a great leap of faith, to questioning well I have done this before but it never worked out like I had hoped or anticipated. I find the key was how I tried to over perfect the idea or plan. How I had got this picture perfect ideal in my mind as to that which it should be or become. In doing so I lost the essence of that which I truly first envisioned.

Ok, so I can be a bit repetitive. Like a child that is told no and can't help but ask again just in-case circumstances have changed in that split 1 minute pause of hearing no! Until it is an inevitable reckoning that opens the conscious mind to well, it is definitely a no.

So where was I? picture positive not perfect, means you write down your reasons for that which you see in your life, in your goals and in your self. Look at this in realistic terms not with critical expectations. The ego can always find a way to knock the wind out of you self confidence and self esteem given half the chance. When we doubt out ability or self it is like a red flag and ego is charging forth the bowl you over and trample you some more.

The only way to be more conscious of your thoughts and ideals is to look at matters in am ore positive light. For may it was realising I had so many project and great ones at that, but they had not been fulfilled. I look at myself a tad disappointed thinking wow you have always done this and you finish 40 % not 100%. I was really critical of myself and my spreading my energy so thin I lost interest or it become too hard that I just left it half finished. Yes, ego was kicking me a few times as well.

I then went through and seen this with a new set of eyes. The unfinished projects or goals or ideas were now sitting there in their usual back burner form. I looked at each one and could see how I had started off great until I become overly creative! in the pursuit of making something happen I had gave it life, gave it a make over, 15 times and then decided it must need a nip and tuck because it was still not perfect. The end result reminds me of a joke I once heard.

" A lady in her 60's get his by car and goes to heaven. At the pearly gates she is met by God who says to her go back it is not your time you have many more years to live, well into your 90's. The lady is so excited to hear this is not her time and so she returns to her body and start to recover.

Thinking to herself well since I am in here and I am not going to die until my late 90's I may as well fix up a few things and turn back a few years. So she has a nose job, a tummy tuck, a face lift and all the things she felt she wanted to do, after all she going to be living well into her 90's.

All complete she leaves the hospital and on the way home decided to stop and buy a few groceries. As she crosses the road she is hit by a truck!

Up to heaven she goes and she is standing at the gate furious! God shows up......well ? said the lady...you said it was not my time I was to live well into my 90's! God replies, is that you ? sheez did not even recognise you!"

I can assure you changing and recognising your choices is not that dramatic lol. I took a moment to reassess my self and my actions. I started to realise I set myself up for that picture of perfect yet in my subconscious mind I know perfection is not a reality it is a perception.

The steps I took next were to help me see if my ideas, goals or plans were still applicable. Did they have sustenance or longevity? Where they stepping stones or foundation blocks that can be built upon? Could I see more in this now as I have taken a different perspective on the unfinished work?

Some were null and void but others I knew were waiting for me to grow into. I had started the idea, plan or project but had to acquire the knowledge or experience to see it through. I could see a collage of plans and ideas starting to take form. I also could hear my conscious mind say don't go doing no nipping and tucking and changing everything like last time either or your plans will be like that lady, unrecognizable.

1. Create the platform
2. Start to work it, mold it and see its viability
3. Consider if it is a shorty term exercise or a long term outcome
4. Look at the positives it is presenting be this growth, understanding, confidence etc
5. Remember -Perfection is a perception not a realistic outcome so enjoy the challenge of creating this and learning from the experiences.
6. Give yourself permission to change your mind.
7. Find your sense of purpose and that which you truly wish to accomplish by starting your new project, attitude and so forth.
8. Encourage yourself, support yourself and enjoy yourself.
9. Do not measure yourself against others, you are an individual and noone can be like you any you dont want to be someone else. Be strong and be proud!
10. It does not cost you money to start, it take energy. Once you have created your plan and started to put energy toward your personal goal it is amazing how the universe supports the right doors, people, support and so forth to see the once thought of plan or idea come to life.

So in coming to the finality of this blog, erase every doubt you have had that you can not possibly do it! You are able to achieve al ot more than you realise when you remove the doubts, limitations or the comparisons of what you feel is expected.

It can be a liberating feeling knowing you have followed through.- Picture Positive, Not Perfection and you will find a complete more fulling image of that which is attainable.

xx Cosmic Hugs xx

When There Is A Block

When There Is A Block

Our body is a complex yet resilient vessel. The ability to protect, endure and sustain is its very vehicle through this life. Often we take for granted this vessel, that can in time weary and begin to show signs of weakness and disease.

The relationship with the bodies is important. The bodies ? yes the bodies…the physical, mental, spiritual and emotional bodies all synchronise and make our being more present, capable and healthy/unhealthy.Often you will hear people refer to such bodies as layers, Etheric, Astral and Physical bodies. (included a great article on this further on in the blog )

image was sourced from http://pathauldren.com/wworkshops/and-more/me-chi/

Our beautiful being is energy, that flows and replenishes as we do. The energy can be a positive or a negative depending on the what the physical body is being fed by the other bodies. Over time this dependency can also be an integral part of the physical body’s health and well being which can both strengthen and weaken the system depending on what is being brought through and thus remaining within the physical body’s energy.

One way of better explaining this is through looking at the chakras. Chakras are vortexes of energy that are the life force. * http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chakra . The life force or vortex can often get blocked and when it does this can have an affect on our physical well being.

Image sourced from http://projectinnerpeace.org/what-is-a-chakra/

Each chakra or energy vortex has a relationship with our bodies. The physical body is often the result of health and well being ailments and weakening when blocked or stunted by the inability to release and allow the energy to flow freely.We can contribute to these blockages through our mental, emotional and spiritual bodies. 

There have been many books, sites and authors who have brought to our attention the importance of recognising these blocks and why is is imperative to work with our bodies (all our bodies) to help to clear and recognise areas needing our focus.

Some of my favourite authors include Caroline Myss, Charles Leadbeater, Claire East, Annette Noontil, Louise Hays just to name a few. The raw essence of the body and its relationship to our outer exteriors that affect our well being. 

We are a product of our being, our faith, understanding, life force and character. We give our bodies the food, knowledge and growth to sustain its capacity to journey us through this life. The experiences the bodies will encounter will be significant to our life experiences and our soul’s purpose.

Our body and energy will absorb that which is in turn fed to it, that which it will sustain, be this positive or negative energy. Be this anger, tension, anxiety,depression, unbalanced relationships, abuse on all levels,  fear, sexual issues, inability to form close relationships, addiction are some of the signs of energy blocks within a chakra. There is confidence, issues, psychological issues, physical ailments. It is not the complete list but it is a identity kit of what you can recognise in yourself when you are feeling out of sorts.

Be the sustenance of love, forgiveness, faith, self confidence and self worth. Creating the foundations for betterment and releasing the energy of karmic or life experience through working within and through your life experiences and higher sources. ” Acceptance without ego or blame”

A good reference site : http://www.chakra-centers-heal.com/

The ability to embrace the energy of change and make conscious choice to heal and evolve the bodies from each level by recognising, accepting and transforming the physical, emotional, spiritual and mental bodies to more balanced and aware.

Some blocks are major! they are karmic, they are life lessons, they are part of your purpose. They may string together in life events or circumstances to enable you to experience this soul’s journey with this particular experience or succession of experiences. 

" We are all here for a reason, each of us have our own purpose/path/ journey depicted by our higher self upon earth placement. This experience, purpose or journey comes sometimes easy, sometimes hard, sometimes with the ability to resolve, heal and evolve. Other times the evolution is the experience itself. The effect or affect is carried forth by other souls who will join, interact or be a part of this life experience. this is as a community you may find you attract similar souls on the same path of experience for this purpose." As I have always been told by my guys upstairs.

We bring forth the experience through our outer bodies before the energy reaches our physical body. We manifest our circumstances and experiences. Yes I know some may feel this is an awkward sentence to read. But we do, we honestly create our being in the image of our thoughts. Our thoughts create our emotional reactions and our emotional reactions feed our thoughts which in turn feed our physical body or deprive our physical body and spiritual body of its life force. Hence we create our health and well being in all our bodies, not just one.

We manifest our health and well being through our energy and its effective course through out physical body. “known fact depression slows down metabolism” Our health and well being creates health reactions within our organs, muscles, nerves, structures, blood, chemical changes that so forth, before it even reaches our physical body we are experience this in our energetic layers.

Example of an article about the Etheric/Astral and Physical Energy (bodies) and health relationships (page 16)  http://www.esotericquarterly.com/issues/EQ09/EQ0901/EQ090113-Nash.pdf

This is a limitless topic, the discussions can be much. My purpose of this article is to enlighten the importance of understanding the concept of a healthy, mind, healthy body and healthy emotional make up. The significance of our bodies as a whole, our connective bodies become a vessel for charting the experiences that we will encounter on our path and will endure more than we may even physically be aware.

Working on areas pertaining to your purpose, experience and soul’s journey will be illuminating as you discover your own health awareness. How your physical body, Intellectual, emotional or spiritual bodies exhibit signs of weakness, strength and/or growth. You are empowered with the knowledge, tools and purpose of being, to embrace this experience and to work within the experience or path/purpose to better understanding your soul’s journey.

" Your health is a depiction of your own life force - Physically, Emotionally, Intellectually and Spiritually. You hold the key to your own Well-being"

Cosmic Hugs

Carolyn Flynn 

Taking Ownership

                                            My shared topic is on OWNERSHIP today . 

This is not the type of possession over material ownership but that which one does when they stand in their own situation and look at that which they have contributed and created to be there.

It can feel a little daunting if there has always been occasion to shift blame or insinuate that another is responsible for your actions or inaction. my ex hubby number two had a great way of reminding me of this when I would say “you are making me feel ……………… !” he would retort “I can’t make you feel anything, you are choosing to feel that way, or think that way” 

It took me a few unsavory arguments and penned up frustration to realise, you know what that is one VERY wise statement. You (my ex) can’t make me feel this way, I am however, choosing to allow this to affect me in this way, thus I am feeling this way because I have chosen to accept this feeling.

Well, like every lesson that enters into your life you realise that you and only you are responsible for your thoughts, feelings, faiths and life experiences. A very good friend of mine told me that when we are angry at someone, we are angry out ourselves that the situation or person has affected us so. We have chosen to allow anger to develop out of not confronting that which is making us frustrated and defensive.

It becomes all to easy to blame someone else, but in reality you have contributed to this situation. You have allowed the situation or energy to evolve into a defensive bout of emotional and intellectual games. The type of game where you negate any possible form of letting this go to a more darn you how cant you do this to me or I am so hurt that i will hang onto this pain over letting it go and seeing the reason this situation has occurred in the first place.

You see this arise a lot within families. Mixed personalities who may be bonded by blood but not by personality. There are clashes, blame, love, craziness, laughter, growing up and moving over matters, finding your own independence and so forth. 

The taking ownership is knowing that although you are different you realise that that person is who they are and you are who you are. You might fight, feel indifferent. You may feel let down or vacant. But when you own that feeling rather than pushing it onto another or a situation you actually start to see what it is that you are creating within yourself to give that feeling life. Are you indifferent in you, angry, controlling, alienated, abandoned, lost ? Are you wanting to feel this pain, hurt, shock or relive it with condemnation rather than forgiveness and revelation? 

It does not mean you have to forgive and forget or be the one to always give into the actions of another. It is where you take ownership for that which you may be contributing through your own actions, fears or ego. Where are you whipping yourself emotionally to the point of feeling powerless? where are you limiting your own ability to rationalize with the situation and see it is a creation of circumstance and once dealt, accepted or healed you can move on and see it as an experience to grow from.

Taking owner ship is self empowering yourself by taking ownership of YOUR own self. Your thoughts, your feelings, your physicality, your faith and spirituality. It is not shifting this to expect another to do this for you. You realise you can not avoid that which is being brought to the surface.

I am going to share an example. I had a person contact me about young adult child that had chosen to remove them self from their family and be with the partner. This was of course most devastating for the family. Possibly as i can only assume as it would have created a lot of grief, frictions, anger and resentment, that this young adult had chosen to experience life with their partner to the dismay of what the parental roles may have wanted.

So no contact, no news, now involvement in this young adults life due to the parental figure being so very hurt leads to the parental figure now on a mission to create more personal angst, pain and hurt. The parental figure has not dealt with this situation in a rational or even adult emotional way, instead it becomes a pit of anger, blame and resentment of what this young adult is now putting this family and parental figure through.

The parental figure sources information on the young adults personal life and when will they return, but. the return is sort with a condition without the young adult’s now partner, who this parental role blames and resents for the young adults choices. 

Now, as we are on the outside of this story line, it is about seeing how both could have contributed to this young adult leaving the comfort of the parental home and to the parental figures contribution in keeping this young adult from returning in any form.

That anger and resentment begins reinforcing the parental figure’s reason to be hurt and to hit out, to want to control and see this apparent relationship fail. The longer this drags on the longer the healing process.

So, the parental figure asks for guidance and is told that the young adult will return but you will rebuild the relationship on a more mature footing. Understanding that although this young adult may be making choices for their own happiness and this may displease you, they love you. This is their time to follow their own life directions and experiences.

The young adult was preparing to create a time of finding comfort in their emotions and feelings with their partner. It is not for I to deem this a good or bad relationship based on the emotions or thoughts of the parental figure. I delivered my message as I was given it. The young adult would return and that the parental figure would have the opportunity to have a more mature relationship with this young adult, water under the bridge, rebuilding with a new level of respect for each other.

The parental figure would have NO such thing! I was told in no uncertain words that I was sadly mistaken if I thought they would forgive this young adult at all. The parental figure went on to include the family and those who were disgusted, appalled and angry with this young adult. The parental figure was displaying the pain of being hurt, rejected but in a lot of ways had focused on just that and was not interested in rebuilding a relationship with the young adult unless it was without the partner.

This could have been solved some time back but, alas, no one wants to take ownership for their own actions or reactions. The parental figure is feeling resentment, anger and hurt. The young adult is feeling controlled, dictated to and rejected. This is prolonging the chance for a healthy relationship between the parental and young adult (who is in their early 20’s, sensible and grounded)

The retort of the parental figure implied towards me that I was sadly mistaken if I believed that hrte parental figure had any intention of accepting the young adult’s partner or the young adults choices and actions was taken in with a sense of sympathy and understanding that the parental figure was sadly mistaken if they felt the young adult would drop everything and return due to the excommunication of the family or being denied the understanding, love or chance to both take ownership to what create this in the very first instance.

The parental figure wanted to shift the anger and resentment onto myself for being so bold as to predict the chance of them reconnecting in a much more higher and mature level than that which is being experienced now. That my assumption was incorrect, there would be no forgiveness.

The parental figure has chosen to take this stand thus this is the action that will lead to the result that is being played out now. Taking ownership allows this parental figure to see what they are contributing to this situation and how they can make steps to heal, forgive, let go and build a better understanding of the relationship the parental and young adult may both want from each other.

Sadly, years may pass and sadly the resentment may grow and in the whole experience precious moments that could have been shared now may be lost. The connection severed by anger, blame and resentment. Sadly this parental figure will blame others for the displeasure of not having the young adult back in the way they feel only acceptable. Sadly this will reflect onto other areas of this parental figures life and create the same feelings over and over again.

The moral to the story is that we all contribute to our life situations. We all have the ability to take ownership or to shift blame to another or project it on a situation. Taking ownership is more productive and creates the bonds of experience that show you have the ability to see both aspects/side of a situation and and find the meeting point. 

Find the I choose to accept …………………my own actions in creating this situation or outcome. It is not about turning the other cheek, or lower your expectations. It is about finding the purpose of the experience and seeing how are you any more the victor if you are anger, resentful and blaming. Who needs that baggage ? who wants to go through life feeling everything else and everyone else to blame for you feeling the way you do. For your attitudes or emotional reactions. 

If i am feeling fearful I look at that with what is creating that fear…. the same with being defensive or hurt. The same with letting go, being confident, believing in myself. Taking ownership means I choose the path my life takes emotionally, physically, intellectually and spiritually. Taking ownership allows us on a whole to be whole and not held down by the dense feelings of ego and control that inwardly and outwardly turn to bitterness and denial robbing us of so much we could have experienced on a much more positive level.

XX Cosmic Hugs XX 

Finding The You IN YOU

                Finding The You IN YOU

The days can seem to blend and the nights drag on, when you are preoccupied with what is right or wrong. How can you please everyone and yet still stand true to you? You can’t……..when you take ownership of that statement you realise how the transitions, changes or obstacles are created by the inability to take up your power towards change.

There are times traditions, honour, customs, fears and faith can all hinder the path to self empowerment. Times when you may be feeling helpless and confused or scared about how to take that initial step. You are struggling under the mountain of guilt, fear and powerlessness to find a reasonable outcome that will not only please yourself but also please those concerned.

When you are miserable than so are those connected. We bring forth a reflection or energy that is being brought forth to help each to recognise  the emotional enslavement that is occurring throughout this situation. 

We can be happy and still be connected to our path, family, friends and others It comes down to boundaries and self empowerment. Knowing when you are reacting to a situation that is out of control or has become this way from lack of initiative to stop it. When you are condoning it and accepting it , you are relinquishing your power.

How people take your power is bit by bit placing higher expectations on you. Finding your weakness or hole in your personality layer be it a fear, self doubt or physical trait. They often pronounce your name incorrectly or make tongue in cheek comments. Some even just over rule everything you say and dismiss your feelings. 

The route they take is to make them selves look superior whilst you go off and try and patch up the wounds. They are smart manipulators, cunning associates and often people we trust. The same people that are struggling with their own ghost and yet shining a light on yours.

It is the situation that that continues to come up, the topic that raids your happiness and brings you down. Its the self condemnation, the I am not good enough, i don’t have the energy, I don’t want to hurt any one excuses. Its the person within you that is screaming out i am powerless and I just want someone to make it better or take it away. 

Look around take stock of the ones who come in and rob you of your smile, that feed your fears. the ones that make you feel inferior or like your not good enough, smart enough to wise enough to lead your life and be happy.The ones that come into your day who then energy dumb and then leave. The one who mocks your dreams and strips away your ambitions.

Time to recognise the beautiful energy you are, the one hiding under all those layers of atmospheric crap. The build up of years and years of being a people pleaser, the nice guy or girl and where has it got you? Where has allowing others to come in and take over your mood, to bring you down and and make you feel not good enough ? unloved, depleted, exhausted, just putting up with it? …its made you miserable and powerless to change the situation.

What would you lose if you said ” please dont speak to me that way, or dont treat me like this or I feel like you do not appreciate me and what I bring to this situation………the list goes on…what would you lose? you would lose one piece of that inability to stand up for your happiness. You would be 99 more pieces closer to taking your power back. If that person was offended by your taking your power, then that it their issue.

We fear speaking up. We dont want to lose our friendships, those same ones that are negative energies ? not all friends are this way I am just using this as an example as many people worry about hurting the feelings of friends yet you are being hurt each time this person walks in and slams you with their critique on who, what and how you are.

Step back and see if that person really your friend? are they just self projecting so that can look better than you or is this a case of misery loves company? This is you chance to be honest and see what changes can you make to have a better relationship with this person, someone who will respect you for you or are they here in your life to teach you to recognise you deserve better? 

Sometimes we cant recognise better if we never felt it. We an see how to bring it forth if we never felt we can achieve or embrace it. Better is like your favorite scent lingers and makes you smile and lifts your spirits. Better is the first time the sun hits your face and you raise your head instead of looking down. Better is the first time recall love, and how it felt to feel it, have it and hold it. Better is when you can be proud of who you are and you dont need someone elses approval to be you.

You may be thinking but its too hard because its not a friend it is my family, my boss, myself. it all starts with you. One step at a time, one self empowerment moment at a time. One taking your power back and speaking up, one believing in yourself. it all begins with you.

You are 100 % not 98, 99 or 5% you are 100% you. You live your life, you are responsible for your choices, path and what you bring into it. You are not an emotional doormat, a place for others to control or manipulate. You are a loving beautiful energy that deserves to be whole and be loved and respected for who you are, not what others may wish to box you into.

Some links : 

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/21-tips-to-release-self-neglect-and-love-yourself-in-action/

http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-7324/6-tips-to-find-yourself.html

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/evolution-the-self/201209/how-and-how-not-stand-yourself

Cosmic Hugs 

Carolyn 

Seeing Past Regret

Seeing Past Regret

Taking responsibility or healing the gulf is just as important as the experience that created the change and lead to this point of regret. It is one of those feelings that can lead to dismay, mixed feelings and pure emotional and mental exhaustion. The point of realizing you can not change that which has happened but you can be more aware of the future, does not settle the emptiness left by regret.

Ask the person who wishes they so much could change the course of an outcome. Ask the person who wishes with all their might they would have thought differently at the time. Ask the person who is mourning someone, worried over someone or left helpless by a situation that created a gulf of change that lead to much that can no longer be fixed, replaced or put back together.

Regret is real. It is the conscious mind letting you know that you are dealing with unfinished business. You are literally sitting in the middle of could of, should of, why did I, how could I, conversations that are running rampart within the head.

What is regret? it is an unhappiness, disappointment, sorrow, guilt, remorselessness, shame, self condemnation. It is the human mind and emotions going through dejection, mourning and utter helplessness to change a situation that has impacted ones life or that of others.

Regret can build over years only to emerge when one is at the lowest point in life or a situation and it may resurface bring with it years of similar situations or feelings building upon and reinforcing regret. When one feels as if they have failed, pulled up short, lost a chance or are grieving for a person or situation or outcome, they often fill with regret and self blame for feeling powerless in not being able to change the outcome.

Regret can be how you treated someone, how you left a situation unresolved or a turned away from a solution. Regret can emerge when you have time to rethink matters and questions your actions as being impulsive or negative. Perhaps you have had a period of time when you have jumped into or went against your better judgement and the situation ended very badly leading you to questions your logical actions you would be able to undertake now with such hindsight to that which you are now experiencing.

It is the feeling of reassessing such actions and seeing that your choices or lack of have lead to this situation becoming an integral learning block within your self. Yes you do learn from your choices and regrets, we learn that we can not change them but we can take a look at how to better resolve, sort or even forgive and mend that issue that needs healing to enable one to let go of the regret and accept the situation or outcome as a an experience that may take time but one can not change the past only be more aware of the future steps one may choose to take.

1. Look at what you regret, write it down
2. Now write at least one thing you have learned from that situation beside each regret.
3. Write one thing you would do differently in the future connected to that regret.
4. Tick each regret you have listed if you have repeated that same situation again, if so write why ?
5. Look over your regrets, you reasons and solutions to do matters differently if the situation or chance to come again, reassess you motives, motions and reasons behind these regrets in a a way that releases you from self condemnation but allows you to take a responsible look at how you can better change repeating such actions or situations in the future.
6. Where possible let go, forgive, mend or find the avenue that enables you to release this regret in a way that is not going to be harmful to yourself or others.

Common regrets -

1. I wish I would have got a better education - solution never to late to learn
2. I wish I was there when they passed - solution they know you would have if you could have or it was not meant to be. They love you, they understand and would not want you putting yourself through all of this every time you think of them.
3. I wish I would have started this when I was younger - solution well nothing like the present and you will enjoy it more because you are ready for it now.
4. I wish I would not have been so mean to that person - solution is there a way to repair this or perhaps look at if you are in the same situation again to not repeat the same regret.
5. I wish I did not spend, over eat, over indulge, act so irresponsible - solution there is many self help groups, personal plans or people to support you just ask. 
6. I wish I would have said no - solution that no might have not made the difference you feel it would have.
7. I wish I would not have made that decision, I went again my better judgment - solution you are armed with knowledge of what will be a better course in future
8. I wish I would have said I love you more, been more affectionate, hugged, let them know how I felt - solution you are who you are those who love you know this and accept you for the person you were to them. They perhaps do not judge you as harshly as you judge yourself. You can make the change to being more open with your feelings in the future.

I know you are reading this feeling this is so shallow, that regret is a deeper more painful jab that is piercing through your layers of self esteem, confidence and self love and forgiveness. The truth be told, you probably could not have changed the event, situation or circumstance even if you tried. A course was set, a path was to be taken.

The experience that was given through this succession of life experience has been brought through an immense self recognition of understanding that letting go, t

From a higher prospective, I know some may not accept this, so from my belief, I believe that everything happens for a reason. You reading this post is for a reason, be it information you needed to read, be it a chance to let go of something you secretly regret or knowing that you are not alone, that everyone has a regret but does it serve a purpose to hold onto it? I believe no.

I believe the longer you hold onto the regret the longer it takes to let it go and heal. The more immediate you recognise your actions the less inclined you will be to harbor regrets. I am not saying I have not had a regret in my life. I most likely would have had many if i hung onto them. BUT I learned that they served no purpose to be productive in my future life. This does not mean I negated responsibility for my actions or inaction's, it means I looked at my choices and identified with that which I knew I contributed to my situation and then took the steps to remedy, fix,heal, forgive and find a workable solution. 

If you feel you need to seek advice for your past regrets that are controlling your day to day life, be this a counselor, trusted friend or just your higher source. Then, please do so. Don't carry a burden that grows heavy and weary over time. Find a way to heal and let it go. I am not saying doing so will  take you back, or go back in time and then lead to a way to change the course of life but, it will make a large difference to your well being, self love and life in the now and in the future. 

When we live in the moment, we leave no room for regret. We accept the passage of time as building blocks for our soul experience. We accept that we are masters of our choices, we have a choice to hang on or to let go. We accept in our humanness we may make mistakes or create a situation that we can learn from. When we live in the moment we heal, we live, we find peace, forgiveness, compassion and understanding. When we see past regret we find wholeness, love and the real future with a new set of eyes.

xx Cosmic Hugs  xx 

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