Finding The You IN YOU
The days can seem to blend and the nights drag on, when you are preoccupied with what is right or wrong. How can you please everyone and yet still stand true to you? You can’t……..when you take ownership of that statement you realise how the transitions, changes or obstacles are created by the inability to take up your power towards change.
There are times traditions, honour, customs, fears and faith can all hinder the path to self empowerment. Times when you may be feeling helpless and confused or scared about how to take that initial step. You are struggling under the mountain of guilt, fear and powerlessness to find a reasonable outcome that will not only please yourself but also please those concerned.
When you are miserable than so are those connected. We bring forth a reflection or energy that is being brought forth to help each to recognise the emotional enslavement that is occurring throughout this situation.
We can be happy and still be connected to our path, family, friends and others It comes down to boundaries and self empowerment. Knowing when you are reacting to a situation that is out of control or has become this way from lack of initiative to stop it. When you are condoning it and accepting it , you are relinquishing your power.
How people take your power is bit by bit placing higher expectations on you. Finding your weakness or hole in your personality layer be it a fear, self doubt or physical trait. They often pronounce your name incorrectly or make tongue in cheek comments. Some even just over rule everything you say and dismiss your feelings.
The route they take is to make them selves look superior whilst you go off and try and patch up the wounds. They are smart manipulators, cunning associates and often people we trust. The same people that are struggling with their own ghost and yet shining a light on yours.
It is the situation that that continues to come up, the topic that raids your happiness and brings you down. Its the self condemnation, the I am not good enough, i don’t have the energy, I don’t want to hurt any one excuses. Its the person within you that is screaming out i am powerless and I just want someone to make it better or take it away.
Look around take stock of the ones who come in and rob you of your smile, that feed your fears. the ones that make you feel inferior or like your not good enough, smart enough to wise enough to lead your life and be happy.The ones that come into your day who then energy dumb and then leave. The one who mocks your dreams and strips away your ambitions.
Time to recognise the beautiful energy you are, the one hiding under all those layers of atmospheric crap. The build up of years and years of being a people pleaser, the nice guy or girl and where has it got you? Where has allowing others to come in and take over your mood, to bring you down and and make you feel not good enough ? unloved, depleted, exhausted, just putting up with it? …its made you miserable and powerless to change the situation.
What would you lose if you said ” please dont speak to me that way, or dont treat me like this or I feel like you do not appreciate me and what I bring to this situation………the list goes on…what would you lose? you would lose one piece of that inability to stand up for your happiness. You would be 99 more pieces closer to taking your power back. If that person was offended by your taking your power, then that it their issue.
We fear speaking up. We dont want to lose our friendships, those same ones that are negative energies ? not all friends are this way I am just using this as an example as many people worry about hurting the feelings of friends yet you are being hurt each time this person walks in and slams you with their critique on who, what and how you are.
Step back and see if that person really your friend? are they just self projecting so that can look better than you or is this a case of misery loves company? This is you chance to be honest and see what changes can you make to have a better relationship with this person, someone who will respect you for you or are they here in your life to teach you to recognise you deserve better?
Sometimes we cant recognise better if we never felt it. We an see how to bring it forth if we never felt we can achieve or embrace it. Better is like your favorite scent lingers and makes you smile and lifts your spirits. Better is the first time the sun hits your face and you raise your head instead of looking down. Better is the first time recall love, and how it felt to feel it, have it and hold it. Better is when you can be proud of who you are and you dont need someone elses approval to be you.
You may be thinking but its too hard because its not a friend it is my family, my boss, myself. it all starts with you. One step at a time, one self empowerment moment at a time. One taking your power back and speaking up, one believing in yourself. it all begins with you.
You are 100 % not 98, 99 or 5% you are 100% you. You live your life, you are responsible for your choices, path and what you bring into it. You are not an emotional doormat, a place for others to control or manipulate. You are a loving beautiful energy that deserves to be whole and be loved and respected for who you are, not what others may wish to box you into.
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Carolyn
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