June 2014 Overview

It's All About to Happen

I am sitting here thinking what is it that would be the best piece of information to read connecting you with the month ahead? I am between fairy dust and sprinkles or perhaps some productive solutions to that which has been lingering.

Let's start with the predictions and then I will ease you into the productive....sounds like a plan.

This month will encourage you to listen to your inner guidance. The more you do so the less likely it is that you will get caught up in the hype and drama of life events. I t seems nobody wants to really take up the challenge or be responsible to lead the battle.

We are all focusing on healing our minds, bodies, and souls. This does not imply we are not interested in that which is happening in the world around us, just that we are needing to go within to heal and recover our own energy.

You will be reassessing your life and all that you have completed, attempted or even dreamt of pursuing in the past 12 months. You will be seeing if your purpose or plan was worth the energy or dedication. Did it pay off or are you still chasing your tail?

This month is asking you to put your life into perspective. THINK about it are you really doing the job you love, are you passionate about that person, dream or ambition, are you crazy about making your goals happen? There is a missing link between it eventuating or happening and where have I stepped off at the wrong train stop and still catching the same train back to this point, instead of boarding that train to where I am supposed to be.

I am almost feeling this sense of being optimistically cautious, all this thinking is leading to doubts or fears that  may lead you to be asking yourself " have I got this wrong?' "what the heck was I thinking or perhaps the woe is me I just can't get it happening" I want to let you know that although you are serious about your life path and all that is in it. You may find that the decisions you are making this month will be to encourage you to jump back on that train and this time GET OFF at the real destination.

As I typed that last line I was sucking in my breath as I know that message was a timely reminder to myself to look at the possibilities not the limitations that have influenced my thinking or even my choices. I bet you are nodding your head right now or having an arrrrr haaaaar moment.

The guys upstairs, the universal energy are telling you loud and clear this month to LET GO, release yourself from all that is hampering your growth, happiness or personal progress. You can see exactly that which needs to change and that which you are contributing to enable your present situation. 

Time to stop stressing about who or what may get hurt with your decision, just make it. You are compromising your own happiness in order to appease those you feel you are protecting, guiding, helping an so forth. This month you are to nurture YOU!

There is a strong emphasis on taking the first step. All you need to do is TAKE that first step and then before you know it life is happening and with good results. You do not need to mount your horse and charge into the month with a battle cry worthy of Braveheart but you do need to make an effort.

I am sitting here saying to spirit (my guys upstairs) and? and now what, I can not end a blog with this I need something to reinforce this message. I hear them say, then Let Go..............allow the new path to open and the fresh outlooks to begin. The plans that are being strung together like a beaded necklace to work towards completion. Talk to your higher self, guides and angels and allow them to speak back. Listen to your inner self for each moment you do the more you will see.

You do not need to look outside for answers, this month they are all before you. This is your year in reflection and you are rummaging through the lost property box and finding ideals and healing that was lost and now are ready to be reclaimed. Yes it has your name written all over it, just pick it up and see if this is the one  reason you are here at this space and time because you needed take a revision on that very problem, issue or wound in order to recognise its importance in your life at this very moment is to heal and let it go.

This familiar route, the same old predicament or problem that seems resurface and now it is really getting to the point it is limiting you. How long has it been? How many times have you said you will but you dont? how many times have you said this time I am doing it for me but you give up? How many more trips down memory lane will it take dredging up the past that is left unresolved?

Let it go. Nobody can solve this, answer this or make it better. Only you can.

June 2014 is the lantern of reason, the light of healing and guidance. The spotlight of direction and purpose. All that you need will be illuminated and brighter than Doris Day. There will be no excuse not to see the habitual transitions of non change, it will just keep being brought to your attention.

This is not a time to beat yourself up[ and be too hard on yourself and overly critical. That could have been why you are here right now. It is about letting go of that which is not allowing you to grow, be free or that which is depleting your ability to be happy, loved, at peace.

Each day of June will bring forth this very chance to heal, to take the lead to be complete. 

Tickets please! next stop ................................. 

Finding The You IN YOU

                Finding The You IN YOU

The days can seem to blend and the nights drag on, when you are preoccupied with what is right or wrong. How can you please everyone and yet still stand true to you? You can’t……..when you take ownership of that statement you realise how the transitions, changes or obstacles are created by the inability to take up your power towards change.

There are times traditions, honour, customs, fears and faith can all hinder the path to self empowerment. Times when you may be feeling helpless and confused or scared about how to take that initial step. You are struggling under the mountain of guilt, fear and powerlessness to find a reasonable outcome that will not only please yourself but also please those concerned.

When you are miserable than so are those connected. We bring forth a reflection or energy that is being brought forth to help each to recognise  the emotional enslavement that is occurring throughout this situation. 

We can be happy and still be connected to our path, family, friends and others It comes down to boundaries and self empowerment. Knowing when you are reacting to a situation that is out of control or has become this way from lack of initiative to stop it. When you are condoning it and accepting it , you are relinquishing your power.

How people take your power is bit by bit placing higher expectations on you. Finding your weakness or hole in your personality layer be it a fear, self doubt or physical trait. They often pronounce your name incorrectly or make tongue in cheek comments. Some even just over rule everything you say and dismiss your feelings. 

The route they take is to make them selves look superior whilst you go off and try and patch up the wounds. They are smart manipulators, cunning associates and often people we trust. The same people that are struggling with their own ghost and yet shining a light on yours.

It is the situation that that continues to come up, the topic that raids your happiness and brings you down. Its the self condemnation, the I am not good enough, i don’t have the energy, I don’t want to hurt any one excuses. Its the person within you that is screaming out i am powerless and I just want someone to make it better or take it away. 

Look around take stock of the ones who come in and rob you of your smile, that feed your fears. the ones that make you feel inferior or like your not good enough, smart enough to wise enough to lead your life and be happy.The ones that come into your day who then energy dumb and then leave. The one who mocks your dreams and strips away your ambitions.

Time to recognise the beautiful energy you are, the one hiding under all those layers of atmospheric crap. The build up of years and years of being a people pleaser, the nice guy or girl and where has it got you? Where has allowing others to come in and take over your mood, to bring you down and and make you feel not good enough ? unloved, depleted, exhausted, just putting up with it? …its made you miserable and powerless to change the situation.

What would you lose if you said ” please dont speak to me that way, or dont treat me like this or I feel like you do not appreciate me and what I bring to this situation………the list goes on…what would you lose? you would lose one piece of that inability to stand up for your happiness. You would be 99 more pieces closer to taking your power back. If that person was offended by your taking your power, then that it their issue.

We fear speaking up. We dont want to lose our friendships, those same ones that are negative energies ? not all friends are this way I am just using this as an example as many people worry about hurting the feelings of friends yet you are being hurt each time this person walks in and slams you with their critique on who, what and how you are.

Step back and see if that person really your friend? are they just self projecting so that can look better than you or is this a case of misery loves company? This is you chance to be honest and see what changes can you make to have a better relationship with this person, someone who will respect you for you or are they here in your life to teach you to recognise you deserve better? 

Sometimes we cant recognise better if we never felt it. We an see how to bring it forth if we never felt we can achieve or embrace it. Better is like your favorite scent lingers and makes you smile and lifts your spirits. Better is the first time the sun hits your face and you raise your head instead of looking down. Better is the first time recall love, and how it felt to feel it, have it and hold it. Better is when you can be proud of who you are and you dont need someone elses approval to be you.

You may be thinking but its too hard because its not a friend it is my family, my boss, myself. it all starts with you. One step at a time, one self empowerment moment at a time. One taking your power back and speaking up, one believing in yourself. it all begins with you.

You are 100 % not 98, 99 or 5% you are 100% you. You live your life, you are responsible for your choices, path and what you bring into it. You are not an emotional doormat, a place for others to control or manipulate. You are a loving beautiful energy that deserves to be whole and be loved and respected for who you are, not what others may wish to box you into.

Some links : 

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/21-tips-to-release-self-neglect-and-love-yourself-in-action/

http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-7324/6-tips-to-find-yourself.html

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/evolution-the-self/201209/how-and-how-not-stand-yourself

Cosmic Hugs 

Carolyn 

Seeing Past Regret

Seeing Past Regret

Taking responsibility or healing the gulf is just as important as the experience that created the change and lead to this point of regret. It is one of those feelings that can lead to dismay, mixed feelings and pure emotional and mental exhaustion. The point of realizing you can not change that which has happened but you can be more aware of the future, does not settle the emptiness left by regret.

Ask the person who wishes they so much could change the course of an outcome. Ask the person who wishes with all their might they would have thought differently at the time. Ask the person who is mourning someone, worried over someone or left helpless by a situation that created a gulf of change that lead to much that can no longer be fixed, replaced or put back together.

Regret is real. It is the conscious mind letting you know that you are dealing with unfinished business. You are literally sitting in the middle of could of, should of, why did I, how could I, conversations that are running rampart within the head.

What is regret? it is an unhappiness, disappointment, sorrow, guilt, remorselessness, shame, self condemnation. It is the human mind and emotions going through dejection, mourning and utter helplessness to change a situation that has impacted ones life or that of others.

Regret can build over years only to emerge when one is at the lowest point in life or a situation and it may resurface bring with it years of similar situations or feelings building upon and reinforcing regret. When one feels as if they have failed, pulled up short, lost a chance or are grieving for a person or situation or outcome, they often fill with regret and self blame for feeling powerless in not being able to change the outcome.

Regret can be how you treated someone, how you left a situation unresolved or a turned away from a solution. Regret can emerge when you have time to rethink matters and questions your actions as being impulsive or negative. Perhaps you have had a period of time when you have jumped into or went against your better judgement and the situation ended very badly leading you to questions your logical actions you would be able to undertake now with such hindsight to that which you are now experiencing.

It is the feeling of reassessing such actions and seeing that your choices or lack of have lead to this situation becoming an integral learning block within your self. Yes you do learn from your choices and regrets, we learn that we can not change them but we can take a look at how to better resolve, sort or even forgive and mend that issue that needs healing to enable one to let go of the regret and accept the situation or outcome as a an experience that may take time but one can not change the past only be more aware of the future steps one may choose to take.

1. Look at what you regret, write it down
2. Now write at least one thing you have learned from that situation beside each regret.
3. Write one thing you would do differently in the future connected to that regret.
4. Tick each regret you have listed if you have repeated that same situation again, if so write why ?
5. Look over your regrets, you reasons and solutions to do matters differently if the situation or chance to come again, reassess you motives, motions and reasons behind these regrets in a a way that releases you from self condemnation but allows you to take a responsible look at how you can better change repeating such actions or situations in the future.
6. Where possible let go, forgive, mend or find the avenue that enables you to release this regret in a way that is not going to be harmful to yourself or others.

Common regrets -

1. I wish I would have got a better education - solution never to late to learn
2. I wish I was there when they passed - solution they know you would have if you could have or it was not meant to be. They love you, they understand and would not want you putting yourself through all of this every time you think of them.
3. I wish I would have started this when I was younger - solution well nothing like the present and you will enjoy it more because you are ready for it now.
4. I wish I would not have been so mean to that person - solution is there a way to repair this or perhaps look at if you are in the same situation again to not repeat the same regret.
5. I wish I did not spend, over eat, over indulge, act so irresponsible - solution there is many self help groups, personal plans or people to support you just ask. 
6. I wish I would have said no - solution that no might have not made the difference you feel it would have.
7. I wish I would not have made that decision, I went again my better judgment - solution you are armed with knowledge of what will be a better course in future
8. I wish I would have said I love you more, been more affectionate, hugged, let them know how I felt - solution you are who you are those who love you know this and accept you for the person you were to them. They perhaps do not judge you as harshly as you judge yourself. You can make the change to being more open with your feelings in the future.

I know you are reading this feeling this is so shallow, that regret is a deeper more painful jab that is piercing through your layers of self esteem, confidence and self love and forgiveness. The truth be told, you probably could not have changed the event, situation or circumstance even if you tried. A course was set, a path was to be taken.

The experience that was given through this succession of life experience has been brought through an immense self recognition of understanding that letting go, t

From a higher prospective, I know some may not accept this, so from my belief, I believe that everything happens for a reason. You reading this post is for a reason, be it information you needed to read, be it a chance to let go of something you secretly regret or knowing that you are not alone, that everyone has a regret but does it serve a purpose to hold onto it? I believe no.

I believe the longer you hold onto the regret the longer it takes to let it go and heal. The more immediate you recognise your actions the less inclined you will be to harbor regrets. I am not saying I have not had a regret in my life. I most likely would have had many if i hung onto them. BUT I learned that they served no purpose to be productive in my future life. This does not mean I negated responsibility for my actions or inaction's, it means I looked at my choices and identified with that which I knew I contributed to my situation and then took the steps to remedy, fix,heal, forgive and find a workable solution. 

If you feel you need to seek advice for your past regrets that are controlling your day to day life, be this a counselor, trusted friend or just your higher source. Then, please do so. Don't carry a burden that grows heavy and weary over time. Find a way to heal and let it go. I am not saying doing so will  take you back, or go back in time and then lead to a way to change the course of life but, it will make a large difference to your well being, self love and life in the now and in the future. 

When we live in the moment, we leave no room for regret. We accept the passage of time as building blocks for our soul experience. We accept that we are masters of our choices, we have a choice to hang on or to let go. We accept in our humanness we may make mistakes or create a situation that we can learn from. When we live in the moment we heal, we live, we find peace, forgiveness, compassion and understanding. When we see past regret we find wholeness, love and the real future with a new set of eyes.

xx Cosmic Hugs  xx 

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